How clear are your thoughts?
What questions are you asking yourself when you sit down to write? I remember a time when my own questions felt pretty murky. I would be worrying about what people thought, asking myself, ‘what can I think of that’s interesting to write?
It seemed a logical question to ask, and I felt that if I could just find an answer, everything would be okay.
Everything is okay, now. Not because I discovered a solution to ‘what can I think about that’s interesting to write?'
Everything is okay, because I now have a different question.
Let’s go back to the beginning – that worry about what people would think. If I have a questions, every day, based on my concerned about the way that people might receive my writing, what does that say about the way I feel about my own work?
Or, here’s another way of looking at it: if I was really happy with my writing, would I care what people thought?
This isn’t to say that everyone would think my work was incredible, rather that whatever they thought would be fine with me, because it would be an indication of who they are as people, their likes and dislikes, and not a personal ‘attack’, say, on my ability.
It’s only possible to dance in this free space when I am clear about what I think about my work. ‘Clear’ is an important word here.
Take two glasses of water: one is murky and one is almost invisible it’s so clean. They are both glasses of water, yet which one would you drink from?
Now, take two people who are happy with their writing. The murky version is where that happiness is a thin, protective layer, taped over a slightly deeper, fragile fear. The invisible is where that happiness can hardly even be seen. It asks nothing. It needs nothing. Neither one is wrong or right. Though, it would be fair to say that one is more desirable than the other! And I know. Creative Coaching is such a wonderful way to shift from murky to clear.
This is not to imply that I don’t ever find bits of debris, floating in my psyche. No, what it means is that my commitment to personal development has cleaned my glass so that when something does crop up, I spot it straight away.
When the glass is murky, there can be all sorts of things swimming around in there. 'Ribbit.' In this state, I'd be no good to myself, and certainly no good to my clients.
The murky glass asks, ‘what can I think of that’s interesting to my reader?’ because the murky glass is not yet able to believe in itself. Each time, a writer asks this question, they leave themselves behind in their attempt to jump into the heads of others. It's an act of self abandonment that I am here to help you with, if you need.
The clear glass does not abandon itself to imagine the thoughts of others, but rather looks inward, asking, ‘what interests me today?’
Want to dip your toe into the lake of Creative Coaching? Join me on the 19th July for my free, monthly Creative Coaching event. This month I am joined by the insightful writer and journalist Chris Power as we shine the light on the Inner Critic and start to re-write the dialogue in our minds.
Or, jump straight in and book a chat.
Either way, I hope I've given you something to think about.