Yesterday I blogged about how rewriting our stories can give us the life we want. Today, I want to take a closer look at what those stories could be. 'And, why not choose a really big one?' I thought.
The STORY of SORRY.
The reason I’ve gone for a biggie is because what held me up in my personal development (probably for a year or two) is that I was comforting myself with the fact that, surely there could be exceptions to these life lessons we are taught?
That’s not to say all stories are bad – ‘BAN THE STORY!’ – just that, some serve us better than others.
So, what about the STORY of SORRY?
This one ropes in a lot of characters. There’s the person who has to be sorry. And, they’re a sorry sort of character. Then, there’s the person being apologised to. Now, are they going to play the villain and get angry, or fly in on a winged horse and say, ‘that’s okay, I’ll save you!’
Learning about STORY doesn’t mean ditching everything: ‘Right, that’s it! I’m no longer sorry about anything!’
By going about it this way, you are simply defecting from one storyline to another because, for now, being an arsehole is more preferable to being a sorry sort of character.
Learning about STORY means being aware of the pull of the narrative. It’s only energy, circling around like a vapour, which – if you’re drawn to it – you’ll inhale deeply and then wake up the following morning, having to text your best friend to say, ‘SORRY…’ Your best friend then has to decide whether or not to play the villain and go ape shit, swoop in on a winged horse and save the day, or simply go back to sleep.
The next time you find a SORRY at your lips, or your fingertips, or pressing on your heart, take a pause. Breathe in. Breathe out. Now, ask yourself, ‘Okay, what’s the SORRY STORY here?’
Once you begin to spot the narrative, you’ll see how it features in your life. Then you can decide, 'is this serving me, or not?'
I was so grateful when I began to learn the techniques that revealed the web of STORIES entangling my life. This is beautiful, daring work, and features as part of my Personal Development Package. You can start today by simply pausing the next time you find yourself playing a familiar role.
Want to dip your toe into the lake of Creative Coaching? Join me on the 19th July for my free, monthly Creative Coaching event. This month I am joined by the insightful writer and journalist Chris Power as we shine the light on the Inner Critic and start to re-write the dialogue in our minds.
Or, jump straight in and book a chat.
Either way, I hope I've given you something to think about.