The generalisation of, ‘I’m always late,’ puts us in a spot with very little variation. ‘Always’, holds us back from change. It means, holding on to one thing, without being able to let go and take hold of another.Read More
It’s okay to flag. And we don’t have to pick ourselves up straight away. In these wilted moments I can often discover a great deal that’s beneficial to my onward journey. A sense of something missing in my heart is a signal to pause and reflect.Read More
When you find yourself unable to give a clear and specific reason for why your dreams aren’t possible, this is a sign you’re dealing with a belief, which is holding you back – a belief that is often based on a ‘it’s just the way it is’ argument. I remember arguments like this from the playground.Read More
When the world around becomes a distraction, we find our thoughts are not aligned with the acts we’re taking part in. This distraction is a sign we’ve lost sight of our purpose and have ceased to move in that important, internal way necessary for growth.Read More
Every single writer that I’ve worked with, or interviewed – and I’m talking numbers in the thousands here – have all spoken about a ‘sweet space’: a place where ideas flow, where words appear on the page before they have even been thought. There is no hesitation here, no doubt. This ‘sweet space’ is the discovery of magic within you, proof that you are exceptional, unique and special.Read More
Just when you think your life is going nowhere, Coaching reminds you there is a somewhere, over and over, by returning to this simple, yet powerful question.Read More
It might be that you're trying to relax in the bath, but are really waiting for a reply to that text you sent, whilst at the same time, wishing you hadn’t sent that text. I know about the many variations of not being present. I know how it just makes sense to be in two places at once – this is how it has always been, there isn’t any other way, surely…?Read More
I know what a tender act it is to creep out of hiding. I also know how beautiful it is when you make it over that first obstacle.Read More
I used to dread the days I had nothing. I would be empty of words and yet my mind was racing. As I sat in meditation, it was a challenge to even close my eyes against the bulge of my thoughts, and yet I felt that I had nothing to write. It was a sense of deep tiredness, boredom, a complete ebb.
Now, I am aware of the ‘Wheel of Life’. Here is the teaching to find balance between the ebb and flow of life, of creativity. If we stand at the edge of the wheel, we will only ever grow dizzy. How can we remain in the centre?Read More
If you find yourself asking, ‘what about me?’ then it means that you are beginning to get an inkling of another version of the story of your life: the one where you get to fulfil your destiny.
It might be that for a while, you try harder, but unless you find a way to step free of this cycle, you will only spin faster and ground yourself in deeper. You will continue to let people in line, and yet feel even more frustrated about your acts of good will.
Firstly, if your mind is saying, you are going to need a lot of confidence to get ‘there’ – to finish, writing that novel, or dedicate yourself to making enough art for an exhibition, or dedicate yourself to a new business venture – then now you know what you need. Rather than hearing these thoughts and feeling discouraged, we can step back for a moment and observe: okay, here’s where I want to get to, and here’s what I am going to need.Read More
When someone reaches out to me, and we begin working together, I place myself at their side to set off on a journey with them. So, firstly, I need to know where we’re going.
‘What is it that you want?’ I may ask. This is the place we will reach, now that I'm here to prevent you from going around in circles.
Entering into this space, allows us to clear the debris so that we can create true creative freedom. This means that we don’t have to do, and think, and do, and think, to muffle the feeling of classroom eyes upon us. We can be the artist and writer we have always wanted to be.Read More
By looking ‘out there’ for a solution, we’re only signalling to our brains that we don’t know. If questions could be answered by others we would never again have to ask, ‘do I look good in this?’ for example, because the last time we were told, ‘yes,’ would have been enough.
Answers lie within, by connecting to our centre. That pressing feeling of uncertainty is often because we’ve hung ourselves crooked.Read More
My clients may be disheartened at first, feeling how out of reach their dreams are, which is often what brings them to me. It’s my job to enable them to see these obstacles are only what the mind wants them to think. It’s just a string of code that we’re dealing with, nothing more innocuous that a sequence of letters put in place to keep them safe.Read More
Stepping into my own personal and professional development is such an important part of my practice as a Creative Coach. A willingness to face the truths of my life and do any necessary work to maintain the trajectory I’m on, is the greatest gift I can offer myself to ensure I keep living my dream.Read More
If it was sufficient for people to tell us that we do matter, that we are enough, and we truly are extraordinary, then all this shame-faced fear of lacking wouldn’t really be around all that much. At least once, some person has told us we are loved, we do have an important impact on their lives, we are significant. Maybe there is a feeling of satisfaction for a moment, a day, and then slowly the craving begins again.
I’m not immune to this craving. I still feel fear about the work I do, the plans I have for my career. Yet, my life is very different to how it was.Read More
Often, we think we are dreaming of success, but really we are playing a worn film reel in the back of our heads of all the things we would really love, but feel are out of reach, or unattainable, or made impossible by the circumstances of our lives.Read More
For a while, when I finished my daily writing practice, there was a sense of, ‘phew! I managed another page,’ which I thought was worth exploring. What I found, was this notion of having to contact a microscopic point, and then suspend myself, so that words could flow from this extremely precise place.Read More
I’ve decided I’m going to live until I’m 130 and I’ve noticed that by making one shift in my way of thinking, the ripple effect is enormous. It means that I have over 90 years of my life left, which is the equivalent, in a way, of just being born.
How many times, through my life, have I thought: if only I knew this ten years ago. Now, I do.
All of this feels like a brilliant arena within which to discuss the ways our beliefs can limit us, and that with the right focus we can shift our beliefs to create a magical life.Read More